When Trust Is Broken And How To Rebuild It

Zach Brittle is a couples therapist from Seattle, and the author of The Relationship Alphabet and The Marriage Therapy Journal.

In this episode of It Starts With Attraction, he joins us to discuss his work, his training at the Gottman Institute, and how game theory works in a relationship.

Gottman believes that every relationship that is struggling is struggling because of betrayal. And while affairs might be the obvious betrayal, every time you lie to your spouse or don’t do something you promised, it’s also a betrayal.

They also discuss negative sentiment override, which happens when you no longer remember the positive parts of your relationship but always see the negative in everything.

So how can you work to bring those feelings back to neutral before making them positive again?